Friday, November 30, 2012
From Start to Finish - No Regrets.
I was lucky enough to meet up with a past flame for lunch this week. He was in town on business and somehow it all worked out. He was waiting for me outside my office and when our eyes met we couldn't help but smile. Later that afternoon I received a text from him that also made me smile.
It is difficult sometimes to do the right thing when emotions are involved. And when he and I were forced to end our plans for a future together we were tested. Fear, jealousy and hurt were our constant companion. It wasn't easy. But we supported each other and together we closed the door on our future.
So why am I sharing all of this? Because it is about regret. I don't have any, and neither does he. I have a friend who is going through a break up. It is bitter to say the least. But one can see why - they have failed to treat each other with the respect and dignity that each deserves. From the outside looking in - its not pretty. They are filled with regret about the past, and I don't doubt one day they will look back and regret all this too. How sad and awful. Endings happen. That is life. Sometimes being nice is a challenge. But often that is when it is most important.
In the end it was great to see him. He was happy, looked great - I still adore his sense of humour. And yes I know, some people have no interest in lunching with an ex. I get that. But when you walk away you have to decide how you want to be remembered. For the good stuff that existed - or for the horrible way you handled a break up.
I like how we remember the time there was an us. From start to finish - no regrets.
Canadian Alanis and Guardian